A Guide to Learning American English Slang

American English slang. Spelled with letter tiles on a blue background. Crossword style pattern of popular slang. Word puzzle.

When we work with expats in the U.S. on their English skills, they often tell us that one of their challenges is figuring out American English slang. We can understand why. Ask just about any parent of teens in the U.S., and they’ll tell you that they have trouble keeping up with the latest slang terms, too.

But learning how to understand and use slang is one aspect of becoming fluent in English. And it can actually be pretty fun. That’s why we wanted to create this Fluency Corp guide to American English slang.

Why Is American English Slang So Tricky?

Even expats who are otherwise fairly fluent in English may still have trouble with slang in the U.S. That’s because slang doesn’t get covered enough in most English classes. And even if expats have regularly used English in their home country, they may not have been around many speakers of American English.

We’ve already touched on another reason that American slang may trip up an expat in the U.S.: Slang changes rapidly — perhaps even more rapidly than ever thanks to social media. So even if the expat had some exposure to American slang in their English classes, the words and phrases they learned may have become outdated.

Finally, American slang has a lot of regional variations. So if an expat moves from one region of the U.S. to another, they could have a whole new set of slang terms to familiarize themselves with.

Why Learn American English Slang?

Theoretically, an expat who is fluent in standard English could get by in the U.S. without knowing any slang. But life is a whole lot easier if you can speak and understand the everyday language that your co-workers, neighbors and other people you encounter use.

At work, a knowledge of American English slang can help you avoid misunderstandings with your colleagues. The ability to easily participate in conversations — whether at work, at the grocery store or at parents’ night at your kids’ school — can help you form the relationships that are so important to having a successful experience as an expat in the U.S.

How to Learn American English Slang

As always, the first step we recommend is taking classes in English from a native speaker, or being around native speakers as much as possible, specifically those you feel comfortable asking, “What’s that mean?” Language coaches, or English tutors, can build slang into your classes, and you can ask him or her about any unfamiliar slang terms you hear in your daily life.

Similarly, you could enlist the help of an English-speaking conversation buddy at work or in your neighborhood who can help you get to know slang in the region where you live.

You can also learn more American slang on your own. Add some current bestselling books — the key word here is “current” — to your reading list. Books from past decades won’t include much slang used today (except, of course, slang words that have entered general usage, like “cool.”).

Current music, TV shows and podcasts are other great ways to get better with American slang, especially because you can rewind to hear unfamiliar words or phrases again, or put the English subtitles on to see what the heck they were saying.

Learning in context is key here. Do not just randomly memorize slang from a list. If you can’t figure out what a slang term means, ask your English teacher or conversation buddy — or consult the website Urban Dictionary.

What Are Examples of Current American Slang?

We don’t want to leave you before sharing a few American English slang words you might encounter. This list is based on a 2023 survey by Preply that asked parents of teenagers which current slang terms they were familiar with, as well at this interesting discussion about slang usage by age on Quora:

  • Salty — Peeved or upset: “He’s still salty about getting interrupted during the meeting.”
  • Extra — Over the top or excessive: “I’m not surprised she was more dressed up than any of us. She’s always so extra.”
  • Oof — An expression of discomfort, stress, or sadness: “Oof. That presentation did not go well.”
  • No worries — Used to reassure someone else or to say “you’re welcome”: “Hey, no worries. I was going to the coffee shop anyway, and I’m happy to pick up something for you.”
  • Sweet —Excellent or impressive. “You got the job? Sweet!”

Learn American Slang and Improve Your Fluency

If you’d like to improve your English skills by learning more American slang, we’d love to tell you more about English classes at Fluency Corp. Our English instructors are all native speakers who create highly customized learning plans.

Interested in hearing more about language training with Fluency Corp? Contact us at getfluent@fluencycorp.com or (800) 401-3159.

International Relocations to the USA with Kids: Tips for Learning English as Quickly as Possible

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Preparing to move overseas is an involved process for anyone. But when you have kids, there’s even more to think about. Based on our work with scores of families during their global relocations, we have some tips to share for expat parents and kids.

Why Children Benefit from Living Abroad

Your kids might be one of the reasons inspiring your international move. After all, they’re going to work in a world that’s even more globally connected than ours is now, and living abroad is great preparation for that. According to the Expat Explorer survey by HSBC, parents who have moved their families overseas say their kids experience benefits like these:

  • Gaining fluency in more than one language; improving their communication ability overall.
  • Becoming more adaptable to change.
  • Learning about different cultures.
  • Forming friendships that span the globe.
  • Becoming more open-minded, tolerant and flexible.
  • Showing more initiative.

The Challenges of Moving Overseas with Children

But while moving internationally with kids can be a great adventure, it also brings its own set of challenges. Altair Global studied the factors that impact employees’ productivity during international moves. One of the most significant ones was getting kids enrolled in school in their new country.

More than one-third of respondents to Atlair Global’s survey said this was a high-impact factor on their productivity during their move, which means that it caused three or more days (combined) of lost productivity. Additionally, just under a third said deciding if the move was right for their family was a high-impact event.

It’s also easy to see the role of kids in other high-impact events, such as finding a new home (cited by 66% of survey respondents) and settling into their new community (cited by 32%).

Moving Abroad: Kids Need Language Classes, Too?

So how can you maximize the benefits of an international move for your kids while minimizing the challenges?

You may already be thinking about language training for yourself and your spouse ahead of your move — at least we hope you are! But most parents are focused on how the kids will adjust to this new life, culture, and of course, language!

Becoming fluent in the language of your new country will help all of you feel at home faster and to make new friends. That’s especially important for kids who are feeling sad about being away from their old friends back home. Language classes just for kids, like online Spanish classes for kids, can help your child become fluent.

In our experience, parents are overly worried about their childrens’ language barriers. Take this story as an example: we had a Korean couple hire us to work with their 4-year-old in reading and overall fluency. They were worried that he didn’t speak English like a native speaker and this would cause him to struggle in the upcoming kindergarten year.

The child had already attended preschool in the US for 2 years. What they didn’t realize was that their son was 100% fluent, just like any other American kid. He had been in ‘English lessons’ for the past 2 years at preschool, so basically, he was getting 20+ hours a week of English classes. That’s over 2000 hours of speaking English, which is more than enough to be fluent.

They were also worried that he would have an accent when speaking English, like they do. I assured them, after meeting with the child, that he was a native speaker in English, just like all his peers. He was simply fluent in Korean as well. How awesome!

The Best Age to Move Abroad? Your Child’s Age Matters

But if you’re moving your child at an older age, that is a different story, although most studies show that no accent can be detected if the child moves before the age of 16 and (and this is very crucial), they assimilated into the community by making friends that speak English, and did activities with native English speakers on weekends. Moving abroad with younger children means they can acquire new languages more easily.

Those children who stayed in their first language in the evenings and on the weekends, typically still had an accent, because they were not practicing English enough, soon enough, to retain the native accent. We are not saying that a native accent is needed at all, but this is one of the most-asked questions when parents call us for advice about their kids getting fluent in English.

Best Activities for Kids Moving Internationally

This is what we highly suggest when moving here with any child: sign them up for as many activities as possible, especially if you move at the beginning of the summer and have 2-3 months before school starts. This will give them a head start!

If your child likes sports, sign him or her up for as many summer teams as possible. If your child simply wants to play, go to the playground for a couple of hours a day and make friends with the other parents there. After you’ve made some friends, set up playdates so your child can get extra talk time each day.

Focus on getting 500 hours of playtime in before school starts (and when we say playtime, what we’re referring to is talk time and exposure to the language being spoken). One mother called us mid-July, worried that her 9-year-old son would not be ready for 4th grade by September.

She had done the right thing by signing him up for a lot of sports right away, and when we asked her about how he was following the rules of the game, she repeated that he does exactly what the coaches say. Sounds like he’s already catching on quite well, I told her.

Games are a great way to get exposure, make friends, and have a lot of fun, since there are a lot of hand motions and gestures when playing sports, which help the kids catch on quickly. Find activities your children love to help them get involved internationally!

What NOT to Do When Moving Abroad

DO NOT, and I repeat, DO NOT stop speaking to your child in your native tongue after you move abroad. Most parents think that this will help the child. I assure you, it will not. They will be fluent within one year of starting school, and all you’re doing is taking away their 2nd language. I urge you to keep your household a ‘native language only’ zone.

This means that when your children cross the threshold of your home, you only speak in the parents native tongue. So many parents tell us that they speak English in the home to help their children adjust, but what’s really happening (and we see it every day), is that you’re taking away your children’s’ second language, which is a huge asset for their future.

Also, push hard not to put your child in the ESL class at school. Or, if the school insists, sign them up for many activities after school and on weekends to make sure they are around native speakers that can give them faster progress with fluency.

It often takes children twice as long to assimilate if they are with tons of other children that do not know what’s going on. Yes, it’s hard to be in a class where they don’t understand the new language, but they will learn very fast.

Talk to them each day, support them, get a tutor to help with homework, and love on them constantly, communicating how proud you are of them for being so brave to start this new journey as a family.

Be Neighborly

Another idea to give your child further exposure to English or another language is to set up neighborhood pool parties or get togethers. Make fun invitations together, and walk around the neighborhood delivering the invites. This will literally open the door to more invitations from other neighbors when they have a kids party in the future.

Further ideas are swimming lessons at the local YMCA, daycare at the gym while you destress, reading time at the local library, and meetup groups with other parents in the area.

Take Advantage of Relocation Benefits

If your relocation package offers language and cultural training for you and your family, take advantage of it. Unfortunately, though, such training is often left out of relocation benefits packages. More than half (53%) of respondents to Altair Global’s survey said language training was not provided for their accompanying family members.

And 46% said cultural training was not provided. If you can’t negotiate with your company to provide language and culture classes, consider investing in them on your own.

Additional Resources for Moving Internationally with Kids

If you have more questions or concerns about how to help your kids through an international relocation, contact us for a free consultation: getfluent@fluencycorp.com or (800) 401-3159.

Do Americans Celebrate July Fourth Abroad?

How Americans Celebrate July Fourth Abroad

We all know what the Independence Day holiday is like in the U.S. We typically spend July Fourth enjoying activities like cookouts, fireworks displays and community celebrations. But what is this most American of holidays like for U.S. citizens who live overseas? Here’s a little glimpse of global July Fourth celebrations.

Events in Other Countries

Americans in Denmark should feel right at home on July Fourth. That’s because this Northern European country has been celebrating the holiday for more than a century. Why? According to The New York Times, it all started when a Danish immigrant to the U.S. suggested Danish-American Day and July Fourth was chosen.

The Rebild National Park Society is a Danish-American friendship organization that organizes a huge July Fourth celebration. How big? Well, the Society bills it as the largest Fourth of July gathering outside the U.S. The plans for this year’s event include speakers, musical performances, a luncheon and a gala.

Denmark isn’t the only country that takes advantage of July Fourth as an opportunity to have some American-themed fun. For example, Killarney, Ireland, is planning an American-themed parade and other entertainment.

U.S. Embassies Celebrate the Fourth

In many countries, the U.S. embassy or consulate organizes July Fourth celebrations. After all, they’re a little piece of U.S. soil away from home.nnSometimes these observances of Independence Day have special resonance for both Americans abroad and residents of the country where they’re living. For example, last year Mark Brzezinski, U.S. ambassador to Poland, used his July Fourth remarks to request help for Ukrainian refugees.

Celebrating With Fellow Expats

Companies that have a large American expat contingent in overseas locations also frequently organize Independence Day celebrations. Or, just like in the U.S., colleagues may organize their own informal gatherings. That’s how Lauren Halonen, an American living in Mannheim, Baden-Württemberg, Germany, typically celebrates.

“Usually, someone from our circle of friends from BASF, the company that relocated us, hosts a Fourth of July party at their house,” Lauren told us. The gathering includes food and drink, games — and some cross-cultural friendship-building. “We invite all those we know of from the U.S. working at BASF and then extend it to friends from all over the world who are interested to join. It’s been a fun way to party and share traditions!”

Across the world in Puebla, Mexico, Christina Urrutia has similar plans for July Fourth. “The past few years we’ve gotten a group of us expats together for a dinner and swimming time — like a barbecue party,” Christina told us. “We grill and talk and just hang around.” (What’s more American than that, right?)

If you’re a U.S. expat who’s celebrating the Fourth abroad, or even an American who’s traveling overseas this Independence Day, we’d love to hear about your celebrations. And if you need language and cultural training for your American employees overseas, we’d love to talk with you. Set up a free consultation with Fluency Corp by contacting us at getfluent@fluencycorp.com or (800) 401-3159.

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Expat Chat with Colleen Vucinovich

Expat Chat with Colleen Vucinovich

Fluency Corp helps expats improve communication in their second language, including tips from others who have moved to new countries

In this Expat Chat video, Micah Bellieu interviews Colleen Vucinovich who is a native South African and has lived in Great Britain and the United States. She shares insights from her unique expat journey. For example, as she knows most things by three names: South African, British, & American English.

She tells Micah during the chat, “Even though I’m not Afrikaans, I frequently find myself using phrases at home to express intense emotions like sadness, joy, or delight.”

Video is 57 minutes long.

Expat Chat with Michele Bramstoft

Speaking about Expats with Michele Bramstoft

Fluency Corp helps expats improve communication in their second language, including tips from others who have moved to new countries

In this Expat Chat video, Micah Bellieu interviews Michele Bramstoft who has lived in Saudi Arabia, France, the USA, and Copenhagen. Learn her story and absorb her tips about learning a new language, missing your native language, communicating, making new friends, and starting a business in a foreign country.

Michele is the Managing Director at Copenhagen Relocations.

Expat vs. Immigrant: What’s the Difference?

Expat Vs. Immigrant

It seems like we hear the term immigrant quite a bit more than we hear the term expat. But why? What are the similarities and differences, if any? In a global, social, cultural, and professional context, these words seem to have their unique meanings and connotations. In an increasingly borderless world where globalization literally presents a world of opportunities, just how important are these terms to everyday discussions? Well, in true Fluency Corp fashion, let’s take a look at both sides of the coin.

What is the Difference Between Expat and Immigrant?

The difference between the terms expat and immigrant is not always easy to define, nor are they always distinctive. Some may even use these terms interchangeably. Despite the bit of grey area, there is a difference between the two.

An expatriate, commonly referred to as an expat, is typically defined as a person who lives outside their native country.

An immigrant, on the other hand, is defined as a person who comes to live permanently in a foreign country.

The key difference between the two boils down to their intentions in residing within a foreign country and possibly the length of their stay in that foreign country. An immigrant intends to stay indefinitely, while an expat has no clear timeline as to how long their stay will be. Sounds pretty straight forward, doesn’t it?

It’s surprising that the definitions of these two words just don’t seem to incorporate its accompanying preconceived notions. In fact, according to their text-book definitions, the difference may appear to be trivial, in comparison to the reality of the use and misuse of these terms.

Which of these Words are Offensive?

By true definition, neither the word immigrant or expat is offensive. Somewhere along the way, however, society has developed its interpretation of the word, linking its contrast to social, economic and educational status combined with preconceptions of classism.nnOn the flip side, the term expat is associated with privilege and is considered an ideal reflection of the status quo, which is supported by the belief that the decision to live in a foreign country is a lifestyle choice, rather than an attempt in escaping hardship or oppression.nnThe debate between the two terms has been a long-standing one, but one thing is for sure: depending on who you’re talking to they can both be subjected to their fair share of backlash and individual experiences.nnHumor me won’t you?nnTake a moment, open another browser and Google the images associated with immigrants – I’ll wait while you do that.nnNow, please do the same for expats.nnSee the difference?nnHowever, these images don’t just exist online, they also exist in our thoughts and in the back of our minds. It appears that we have somehow been wired to accept these innuendos as simply what is.

Common Myths About Immigrants and Expats

Both immigrants and expats experience common stereotypes and misconceptions on how they integrate within a new country. As a result, many of their interactions with locals are impacted by these impressions, which certainly don’t make it any easier.

Here are 5 misconceptions of Immigrants:

Immigrants:

  1. Take jobs from locals
  2. Abuse government/health assistant programs
  3. Are low-income earners
  4. Put a strain on the country’s economy

While the perceptions may differ, expats are no strangers to common misconceptions about their lifestyles and their attitudes towards integrating into society.

Here are 5 misconceptions of Expats.

Expats:

  1. Live a privileged life
  2. Are oblivious to the local economy, politics, and struggles of residents
  3. Have no interest in blending in and socializing with locals
  4. Are given preferential treatment
  5. Frown upon local customs, traditions, and overall culture

How Do Immigrants and Expats Impact Global Mobility?

It cannot go without mentioning that both immigrants and expats play a direct contribution to the growth and development of varying industries in foreign countries, which in turn have a direct impact on the country’s economy.

With global mobility in motion, families, professionals and organizations are moving from one country to another. At Fluency Corp, our objective is always to make that process as seamless as possible. Global mobility is at the forefront of what we do, and helping to foster a smooth transition into any part of the world is our ultimate goal. Yet we also are involved in many language programs for immigrants as well, as clients like Amazon and Google often provide group language training on the job for workers whose second language is English. Kudos to them.

With a wealth of opportunities awaiting in terms of jobs in English-speaking countries (and many other countries), the last thing both individuals and organizations want to feel is limited and apprehensive as to whom they can hire. As a result of the challenges associated with assimilating, many companies require assimilation coaches and/or language classes for these groups.

The term expat and immigrant are both keywords in our industry of corporate language training. Our daily interactions are filled with dialogue from people all over the world who are either moving to a new country or are adjusting to life in a foreign country. As a result, we can share in the first-hand experiences of expats.

One negative connotation of expats that we often hear is in their limited desire to integrate and learn the culture of their newfound home (despite how temporary it may be). Learning one of the greatest aspects of a culture (its language) is a true sign of homage. Despite whichever classification you identify with i.e. immigrant or expat, giving yourself the ability to leverage your communication skills to accept new opportunities can only prove beneficial whether personally or professionally.

Fluency Corp has the pleasure of working with some of the top global companies worldwide who recognize that helping employees assimilate is one of the biggest advantages in overcoming global mobility. When considering the potential risks of an employee’s inability to assimilate, organizations are taking increased accountability. Having a direct impact on successfully preparing their employees to fulfill their assignments, leaves the question of value regarding language learning rhetorical.

What’s the Takeaway Concerning the Definition of Expats and Immigrants?

The debate on what it means to be an expat versus an immigrant will continue to be an ongoing one. The importance is ensuring that as individuals, professionals, organizations, and members of society we play a part in being cognizant of the shared challenges they have in moving to another country. Whether the decision to move to a foreign country is a permanent one or an indefinite one, we can wholeheartedly agree, it’s not an easy one. With this in mind, the next time we use the term expat or immigrant, we must play our part in being vigilant in its use.

Interested in learning more? Then don’t hesitate to contact us for further consultation, feel free to contact us at getfluent@fluencycorp.com or (800) 401-3159.

Interview with Audrey | An Expat from the Netherlands

Interview with Audrey | An Expat from the Netherlands

Every month, Fluency Corp reaches out to clients, friends or even family, who have relocated to another country for a job, in order to ask them why they moved, how they got there and the way in which they made a new home for themselves in their new country. We are fascinated by their resilience and we want to support others who will be moving in the future. In these interviews, you will find authenticity, humility and also tips for how to make your relocation smoother. This month we spoke with Audrey Mezas, an expat from the Netherlands. Thanks for joining our Expat Chat!

Meet Audrey: An Expat from the Netherlands

Where are you from? Where have you moved to? And how long did you spend in each country?
I’m Dutch and was born in Amsterdam, The Netherlands. I have moved to 17 locations on 4 continents (sometimes several moves within one country). I have lived in The Netherlands, Tahiti, Australia, Saudi Arabia and the United States. I spent anywhere between 1 to 7 years in each country.

Where did you become an adult?
In the United States and in the Netherlands.

What do you do now?
I am the owner of a niche Relocation company called Expat in Amsterdam® and I live in Amsterdam, The Netherlands.

Challenges of Being an Expat from the Netherlands

What were the specific challenges you faced after moving to The United States from Australia?
I often find that locals put you in the nationality box of the country you last lived in. When I moved from Australia to The United States, I was considered an Australian, when I moved from The United States to the Netherlands, I was considered an American.

When moving to the USA, I wasn’t used to the ‘everything’s possible’ mentality. Everything really was possible! Everything was available. You could take your car through the drive-thru of the bank, and could grocery shop until 10pm at night. There were 100 different cereals. And the weird thing was that you needed your car to go everywhere. I lived in Florida and never took public transportation there, since everyone has a car and it wasn’t considered safe.

We came to Florida where I started high school. My parents were thinking about Miami, but said that the security system would cost about as much as the house. We ended up moving to Clearwater, FL, near Tampa. I went to a small Greek school in Tarpon Springs which was an amazing but fun culture shock! My dad was a banker and when he was transferred, we would move to wherever his new assignment would take us.

So, to start at the beginning, we started in Tahiti, an amazing tropical island in the Pacific Ocean, where I went to a French school and had to learn the language. Then we moved to Australia, where I went to a private international school and later to a private boarding school. Then we moved to Saudi Arabia, where girls at that time were not allowed to go to the international school. I had the choice of going to a boarding school – by myself – or moving to England and living with friends of my family. What did I choose? I decided to stay and go to the boarding school in Australia and would visit my parents and younger brother in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia.

A few years later we met up again in Florida. Before arriving, I thought the USA was like Mork and Mindy. I felt like I was in one of those (High School Musical) movies. I don’t know why we chose Tarpon Springs but I ended up loving it. Very interesting to have a high school with a strong Greek Orthodox history. European culture in Florida? Anything is possible.

In high school, all of a sudden there were these groups – during lunchtime they would sit together – the Greek kids, the cheerleader/football group, the African American group and the LGB(TQ were not yet acknowledged) group. There was even a group of intelligent kids, which people then called the nerdy kids. Note: I found this to be a very strange word! They would sit with ‘their own group’, but they would also stay with their own group outside of the school. It was the first time that I experienced segregation of different types of people and backgrounds.

I have family and friends from all over the world with all types of racial backgrounds, from light to dark skin. I have always been raised to be comfortable and accepting with everyone.

In terms of being an expat anywhere, especially as a kid, what I notice is that when you don’t live in your own house, you’re often not allowed to hang anything on the walls or move any furniture and are therefore limited. People often see the glamour of the expat life, but not the other side of it. For example, not knowing how long you’ll be staying in the country or suddenly moving to another country, which is difficult and not glamorous at all. There’s a whole other side to this life of constantly having to leave your loved ones.

How did you prepare for your move? Any tips for others?
Call a Relocation expert or talk to locals (if you know any) in the country that you will be moving to. Always get expert advice.

What did you expect when moving to The United States that didn’t turn out to be so?
I didn’t expect people to be so open in the US. People in the check-out line would chat with you and you could even get a dinner invitation so easily and quickly! But once invited, would the friendship grow? That wasn’t so sure.

Whereas in the Netherlands, it may take a while to get the dinner invitation, but once you do, you can expect to be invited for a lifetime.

Also, I didn’t expect the news to have such a big impact on my life in the US. Seeing bad news stories being repeated over and over again on the TV or in the newspapers. The bad news has such a big impact in the US. And every channel represents a political power – and each one has a different point of view.

What did you NOT expect that did happen during one of your big moves?
I did not expect a bucket of red/white/blue paint to be poured over my head in the shower once arriving at boarding school in Australia. I was told that this way everyone knew where I came from (i.e. the Dutch flag is red/white & blue).

Once you moved to Amsterdam later in your life, what was most challenging personally and most challenging as a family?
When I arrived in Amsterdam (quite some years ago) strangers who would hear my heavy (then American) accent would actually tell me “go back to the US.” That was quite a shock, seeing I was actually a local Dutch native.

The most challenging part was making new friends, finding a job, a home and finding out what the rules and regulations were within the Netherlands.

Looking Back

Do you have a funny expat story? Or another funny language story where something was misunderstood?
These days we actually buy/sell/rent homes to and for our clients. But the first year I would walk around in the homes during viewings and realtors would think I was one of the American clients trying to buy a home – no one knew I spoke Dutch. This came in quite handy when it came time to bid on behalf of my clients, as I always knew what the competition was thinking!

That first year in the USA, from 1 to 10, what would you score it?
A six.

By the time you left, what score would you give it?
A nine.

Being a Successful, Long-Term Expat

What are the three top characteristics needed to be a successful, long-term expat?

  1. Mingle with locals asap.
  2. Learn the language.
  3. Find out what the locals appreciate and what they stand for…

What role did language play in the success of your moves?
A big part.

In Tahiti I had to speak and learn French as a child. In Australia and the US I had to learn English but two different types of English. British – English and American – English (both countries have their own words).

Fluency Corp is passionate about expats having the very best experience in their new country. More than anything, we believe that language is the key component to ANY and ALL successful relocations internationally, both in business and personally. If you or your team are interested in ensuring highly effective collaborations and communication in your second language, or are interested in improved communication training for your multilingual teams, reach out to us here.

Interview with Seth | An Expat in France

Seth Hanson Expat to France

Every month, Fluency Corp reaches out to clients, friends or even family, who have relocated to another country for a job, in order to ask them why they moved, how they moved and how they made a new home for themselves in their new country. We are fascinated by their resilience and we want to support others who will be moving in the future. In these interviews, you will find authenticity, humility and also tips for how to make your relocation smoother. This month we spoke with Seth.

Meet Seth: A France & England Expat

Where are you from? Where have you moved to? And how long did you spend in each country?
I’m from Northern California, born and raised. Now I’m in La londe Les Maures, a small town in the South of France. I’ve been here 3 months. Before this, I spent 7 years in London.

Why did you move to London?
By default if I am being honest. My wife and I were in Texas, big home, good jobs, white picket fence, the whole American dream. However I was in my late 20s and felt a bit claustrophobic being in the middle of Texas in the middle of the US. We decided to travel for about 9 months going through South America, SE Asia and India and landing in France with the idea of permanently staying there. After trying to find a job and it being unsuccessful (mostly because I did not speak French) we packed up and flew to London.

What job did you do in London?
I had been in retail banking for 10 years, so I didn’t want to do that. I started looking in hospitality. I had always had a thing for it. I thought I could do it well, and I liked the human interaction. So I started with Oakwood who at the time was the global leader in the temporary serviced apartment industry. I was with them for 9 months in reservations and then supply chain for the next 5 years. It was an amazing experience. Then through connections, I got a promotion at Synergy Global Housing as the Supply Chain Manager and led the EMEA supply chain for a year and a half, and then 3 months ago we moved to France. That had always been the goal long term and believe it or not COVID was the instigator to make the jump.

Working in the U.S., UK, and France

What do you do now?
Through a series of personal situations and personal decisions, we moved to France and now I work at Situ who is silently leading the pack in the industry with regards to technology, innovation and company culture. I manage the global supplier network alongside some very talented people.

Tell me your thoughts on the differences working in the US, UK and France.
US and UK differences: it felt more relaxed and laid back in the UK, but i think it was because I changed industries.
UK and France: I work from home 5 days a week now, so it’s hard to compare. I’m not going to a French office on a daily basis. But I can say that the commute in London, the pace at which people move, the lack of human interaction, is different than what I’ve seen here in my small community here in France. It’s friendlier. It’s about 20,000 people now and I can see in offices and shops how happy people appear.

Any differences socially?
I don’t feel that foreign to be honest. I feel like I fit into the French culture. Maybe not the strikers, haha. But at the end of the day you go to the port and you sit and look at the sea. You go to your neighbor’s house and have an aperitif. It is difficult though because my French is still so weak. I can do only one on one conversations. Groups are hard because I can’t follow the multiple conversations.

What you say reminds me of Northern California. Do you think you like your current life because of that?
Maybe. The terrain is the same. The pace of life is even slower here though. It’s hard in the states – living with the lack of medical benefits, the lack of holiday with your career, and the hardcore focus on your career. Don’t get me wrong, I work hard and I work a lot of hours. But it doesn’t define me like it does for a lot of my friends back home I feel.

Challenges of Being an Expat in the UK and France

What were the specific challenges you’ve faced as an expat?
A lot with the language. However, it hasn’t been too bad because my wife has been here to help me with all the admin stuff like getting visas, getting into the social system, buying a car, a few other pending things. And then the typical French things like not getting back to me quickly. The admin side of things, they take their time, haha. The office of foreign immigration… it’s been 3 months and they haven’t responded to me to confirm I’ve gotten my social status. I should have taken French classes, taken medical exam by now, etc, but it hasn’t happened.

How did you prepare for your move? Any tips for other expats?
 Cost of living was huge for us. I’ve done it in Northern Cali, Austin, London and now I know what I’m comfortable with. To come here, I definitely did a cost comparison: homes, groceries, etc. We moved for a way of life, so we wanted to identify places where we wanted to live. We made a list. We’re between Nice and Marseilles at the moment and want to stay in the South. We had 10 towns on a spreadsheet and scored them 1 to 3 and found an average. Things like; Is it near an airport? Near mountains? Cost of rent? Near water? Close to family? How close? Then ultimately came out with the top few locations we want to settle in.

What about social life?
 It’s mostly my wife’s friends so far and the neighbors. I might be in limbo because I am concentrating on my new job and in a way waiting until we move somewhere to join a CrossFit gym – that will be the quickest way to meet people. However I did build a petanque field in an area just near us and as I work on it or play in it now with family, neighbors stop by and we have a chat…very French. One set of neighbors even bought a set of their owns balls to start playing with us!

What did you expect when moving to France that didn’t turn out to be so?
 It’s taken me awhile to find my marks. When I moved to London I felt comfortable almost immediately. Here, I didn’t have a car at first, so that restricted me quite a bit. I didn’t have that driving freedom at first. Finding my comfort zone in getting around took awhile. In this town no one speaks English, but that wasn’t a surprise to me. I was expecting that. Of course, maybe a few people do, but it’s not common. In Cannes or Nice, at least most people have a basic knowledge of English, so it’s nice to be able to talk at least on a basic level with people. People are so understanding of my bad French. So when I say tu instead of vous (the familiar family word instead of the stranger, formal ‘you’) people are easy on me and don’t get upset about my mistakes.

Looking Back

Do you have a funny expat story? Or another funny language story where something was misunderstood?
I was walking my dog with my mother-in-law and we split up for a moment, then I asked her ‘did your dog already go to the bathroom?’ she responded quickly, but I didn’t catch it. So I thought she asked me, ‘yes, and did you?” but that’s obviously not what she asked, as I was not using the bathroom on the walk. It was a big laugh between us.

That first year in London, from 1 to 10, what would you score it? 7
Second year? 5
Your last year, which was your 7th year there? 2
Before I totally alienate all my friends and work families in London with my scoring, it is just a reflection of my personal preference, being from a small town and living in a city of 9 million put me out of my comfort zone. I did it for 7 years because there was so much to do and offer in the city but by the end I was craving that smaller town way of life.

Your first three months in France?
9.5 — a breath of fresh air!

What are the three top characteristics needed to be a successful, long-term expat?
Culturally sensitive. Open-minded. Patient. It’s not just patient with your job or people, but patient with yourself, let yourself adapt, give yourself time. You’ll be okay.

What role did language play in the success of your moves?
Because of my wife, it hasn’t played as big of a role because I can lean on her language skills. But moving to France, language is super important. I was in a store, and I couldn’t ask properly if there were other kinds of sugar. It‘s REALLY frustrating not being able to speak French. So it plays a really big role if you are on your own.

Interview with Yolanda | An Expat from the Netherlands

Interview with Expat Yolanda | From the Netherlands to the UK

Every month, Fluency Corp reaches out to clients, friends or even family, who have relocated to another country for a job, in order to ask them why they moved, how they moved and how they made a new home for themselves in their new country. We are fascinated by their resilience and we want to support others who will be moving in the future. In these interviews, you will find authenticity, humility and also tips for how to make your relocation smoother. This month we spoke with Yolanda.

Meet Yolanda: A Netherlands Expat

Where are you from? Where have you moved to? And how long did you spend in each country?
I was born in Harlingen in Friesland. I’m half Dutch, half Swedish. Lived 17 years in England. 5 years in France, 1 year in Germany and now I am in Holland again.

So you said you moved around a lot as a child, so your natural state is moving, not staying? Is that correct?
Yes, I see myself as a gypsy without the caravan. I’ve moved 28 times in 36 years.

Why did you move so much?
My father did his degree in naval architecture, and because of that, we moved a lot but always by the sea which I loved hence I ended up in Enkhuizen!

What would you call your home country then?
Home is where the heart is! The Netherlands.

Becoming an Expat

Where did you become an adult?
For 18 – 26, the United Kingdom first, which is why I sound so British. I was there from age 15 – 32. London, Portsmouth, Southampton, Guildford. I actually thought I was going to be in the UK for the rest of my life but then Brexit happened and I decided to go back home. It was not an easy decision as I was leaving behind a great job, all my friends and my brother who lives in Portsmouth.

I ended up going to London, no job, no nothing, just taking a risk. This time is what really shaped me. This is how I got in the serviced apartment industry (relocation).

I wasn’t particularly focused on being in the serviced apartment industry per se, I didn’t even know what it was at the time, but it has been the best thing for me. I have an incredible job now and have been in it for 10 years.

During this time I was Corporate Sales Director for Short Stay Group and I was traveling every couple of weeks or so, having an amazing time, leisure time, getting my name out there in the industry and building up my reputation. In London, I worked for Oakwood – the biggest serviced apartment provider in the world which gave me a great foundation to help me to where I am now.

Then, an opportunity came along to go to Cologne, Germany. I was Head of Enterprise EMEA for a start-up company. It was a bit of a shock to the system as the German culture is so different, professional and personal. I spent a year there but decided to come back to the Netherlands as I felt I wasn’t integrating as well as I did in the other countries. I didn’t speak the language which made it hard to integrate into the German way of life, both professionally and personally but attended events such as Mundo Lingo to make new friends. You put sticky flags on you to states where you are from and what languages you speak. It was fun!

Working as an Expat

What do you do now?
I’m still in the serviced apartment sector. I just love it so much, I can’t see myself in any other sector. It’s like a big family, everybody knows everybody! You move from being a client to a supplier and back to a client. I was very honoured to have won ‘Rising Star of the Year’ in 2018 at the Serviced Apartment Awards in London. I felt immensely proud of this achievement. Somehow I received 2000 votes, I didn’t even know 2000 people so I felt very blessed. (There was an intense party of celebrating the win until the early hours of the morning…) (She laughs.)nnWhere do you work?
I’m now Country Manager Benelux for SITU serviced apartments – their HQ is in Exeter – UK. I’ve known Phil, the owner, for years and I had actually always wanted to work for them because of their family-like values. There are 45 employees, but nothing is ever too much for any of the SITU’ers, everyone wants you to succeed and will give you all the support and tools needed. One of the things I love is that nobody has their job title in their signature, I love that everyone is seen as equal in the company, everyone has a voice! When I worked in Germany, it was very much about hierarchy, you were the boss and that was that. I’m very easy-going and fair and like to portray that to my staff back then. With SITU they encourage new ideas/brainstorm sessions. SITU’s owner is very involved himself – if someone is snowed under he’ll jump in and help out. Every year, the company raises money for charity rather than receiving Christmas gifts. I can’t wait for my debut this Christmas haha! Check out the hysterical video!nnhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mlhng7grV3Ynn

Even though you were doing similar jobs in Germany and UK, what feels different now, both personally and professionally?
I’m such a happy go lucky person, meeting people all the time (virtual during the corona crisis but it is still personal in my opinion! You get a feel for their character just by seeing their working from home space), I think it’s important to find a connection with that person as it is an ice-breaker and I am genuinely interested in people’s backgrounds. I would say it’s the opposite in Germany, it’s rather regimented and in my opinion a slight lack in empathy (or I just tell bad jokes!) I find that in general they are quite behind on technology, which was quite surprising. The culture as well. I noticed in Germany – and I’m sure it wasn’t done intentionally – but they forget to consider people that don’t speak the local language. Everyone expects you to speak German, if you don’t, you don’t necessarily fit in. Yes, it was a great way to learn the language, but it was a little bit uncomfortable too.

The one thing I loved about German, though, were the traditions. Traditional restaurants with the really long tables and benches, traditional but simple dish of potato salad with sausage, and marking a cardboard coaster for the number of beers you had. Beautiful scenery, the Dom, Lindt Chocolate factory, boat trips and not to forget Oktoberfest (I bought a traditional Dirndl) and Carnival celebrations, I loved it!

Germany is really understated in regard to its beauty: nature, monuments, history. It really is a stunning country! So there were so many plus points living there as well.

Just overall integrating into society, making friends, meeting like-minded people…. that was hard.

Bearing in mind, I’ve moved 28 times and easily integrate into a new culture, I struggled this time, one of the reasons due to not having the language skills.

Challenges of Being an Expat

Do you think your reaction to Germany is because of where you’re coming from? So we need to be more careful or prepare more for our relocations depending on where we come from?
Absolutely. It definitely depends on where you come from. But everyone will feel a big change most anywhere they go, but different backgrounds, cultures will feel it differently. So even though Germany and the Netherlands are neighbours, it was still tough. Holidaying and working there are 2 very different things.

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What were the specific challenges you faced after moving to Germany?
As an expat, I remember trying to open a bank account. Unless you speak German, you cannot sign the contract. I ended up with N-26, which is an bank for expats that need a bank account and don’t speak German.

Registering with doctors was hard. I couldn’t find anyone that spoke English. So my colleague had to help me find an English-speaking doctor. When I went to the appointment, she actually couldn’t understand me. So I had to use Google translate to explain my symptoms. The medication she gave me worked so she must have understood me.

How did you prepare for your move? Any tips for others?
Build up a support network when you get there. I also joined expat groups on Facebook. Use social media! It was an absolute lifesaver. You will be surprised how many people are in the same boat.

And second – do your research on the country you are moving to, try to speak to someone who has lived there before. I wish I had taken a bit more time to learn about living in Germany, because it was hard hence I joined Mundo Lingo – it’s across the world and helps you meet others.

What did you expect when moving to Germany that didn’t turn out to be so?
I think the language barrier was bigger than I expected with doctors and bank accounts.

What did you NOT expect that did happen?
I wasn’t expecting the hidden beauty of Germany.

Once you got here, what was a personal challenge?
Within my personal life, it was very interesting. I’m all about ‘when you move to the country, you abide by their rules. You learn how they do it. Integrate as much as possible’. I found it hard to make friends in Germany. Don’t get me wrong. I’ve made a couple of really good friends there, but most were English, only 2 German friends. I was trying my best to speak German, but they were acting if it wasn’t clear what I was saying. Hence I felt as if I never fit in even though I was making an effort.

Do you have a funny expat story? Or another funny language story where something was misunderstood?
Also, a colleague played a joke on me. We were in a local pub and he told me to order a beer and gave me the name. I went up and ordered it, and the bartender scowled at me. He had actually given me the name of a local beer in the competing nearby town. In Cologne you drink Kolsch (Cologne) but he had told me to order altbier (Dusseldorf). Like Amsterdam and Rotterdam competing. The look on the barman’s face, I’ll never forget that.

That first year, from 1 to 10, what would you score it?
7

What are the three top characteristics needed to be a successful, long-term expat?
Speak the language, integration, and socialising.

What role did language play in the success of your moves?
It’s quite funny. I’ve obviously lived in different countries where I’ve learned the language quite quickly. In Germany I struggled. They weren’t as open. The language is super important, you need to go to language classes. I wanted to go to a language school, but never got round to it because I was working so many hours. Maybe if I had known German more, I would have stayed longer. But I underestimated it. The biggest misconception is that people think the Netherlands and Germany are almost the same but that is not true at all!

Know an expat that would like to tell us their story? Please email getfluent@fluencycorp.com. Here at Fluency Corp we love supporting companies and their employees as they move abroad. If you have a need for corporate language training, reach out to us. We will increase your company’s communication.

Can an Expat Ever Truly Feel at Home in Japan?

Moving to Japan as an Employee

Have you ever thought of accepting that job in Asia? Taking all of your family to another country, with a new language, and foreign customs? Something that often holds people back from making life-changing moves is a feeling of security and acceptance. It’s a scary situation to be an expat, living in Japan for the first time. People must make a new life in a place away from all that is comfortable. Often your employees will question their motives and choices. Can they, as foreigners, make a living and be welcomed by the native population in a new country? Even more, can they ever truly feel at home? nn 

How do I Feel at Home in a New Country?

So, what is the process like? The doubt tends to come in waves, starting with little things like missing a Starbucks. And it can transform into your employees wondering whether moving or accepting this job or promotion was a good choice. In the midst of all this doubt, more often than not, there comes a point where a light bulb goes off – where one can reach a state of acceptance. nn nnWell, let’s start off by qualifying your thoughts: the acceptance sought is not what they will gain. Expats will always look different, pronouncing words will be hard. Every look will most likely be accompanied by a second glance. Interactions will be hard and the learning curve is usually steep and unforgiving. They’ll forget how to address their superiors, or which hand to shake with before realizing that it is customary to bow in greeting. There will be mounting frustration with each day that something goes wrong. Everything will seem as though it is pushing them to get on the next flight back to their home country and never look back. These “mishaps” and slight embarrassments are a part of the journey to assimilation, especially in the workplace. nn 

At First, It’s Hard Living in Japan

Life in Japan, or any foreign country, can be uncomfortable and unaccepting, far from a walk in the park. In Japanese culture, the idea of a gaikokujin, in its literal translation, is a “foreign-country person.” It holds no prejudice or malicious intent. But for an expat, it puts a large arrow over their head saying “look at me”. Chances are they stand out in the racially homogenous Japanese society. Even as a Japanese-American, living in Japan, while their attempts at assimilation could be much easier, they may still feel as if they exist in the periphery because even though they may look the same, they have little cultural similarity with the majority of the Japanese society. nn 

Can I ever Find Acceptance in Japan?

Expats in Japan won’t ever really find the acceptance they’ve come to enjoy in their home countries. A weekend barbeque with Japanese friends or a Sunday family dinner won’t feel the same. The cursory glances and prodding questions won’t stop. In some positive way, there comes a point in their expat journey where they make peace with and accept the fact that assimilation is beyond their grasp. Yes, they now live in a new country. And, they are away from your family and friends. Also, they have to gain a whole new understanding of Japanese culture, their world and the people. It’s true, even with their most sincere efforts, assimilation might just not be possible. Here are some suggestions you can give your employees to alleviate the feeling of alienation. nn 

  • Embrace the fact that expats stand out.
  • There will be mistakes. Some will have trouble understanding every cultural difference and expectation placed upon them. Misunderstanding and mistakes are the norm, and the fact is that many times people aren’t paying as close attention as you think they are.
  • No one is expected to do everything perfectly on the first attempt – all that’s needed is some effort and a willingness to try.
  • Step out of the comfort zone, explore and find things that they enjoy and stick with them.
  • Do not neglect creature comforts. If they usually do yoga to keep their peace, find a yoga studio and give themself that time.

 

How Can I Help My Employees Feel at Home Abroad?

As an employer, there are things that you can do to ensure that your employees feel at home in Japan.nn 

  • Encourage interaction between your employees. Plan biweekly or monthly company outings immersed in the culture of the country. You can foster community while creating space for them to be more acquainted with their new surroundings.
  • Check in. Whether that’s assigning someone to report back to you on the progress of your employees’ assimilation or personally making visits to show that you do care about more than their productivity.
  • Create an assimilation plan. Think of it as a 90-day assimilation review and meet with your employees to ensure that they are moving in a positive direction and feeling more comfortable with their new surroundings.
  • Honor their contributions. They’ve moved across the world to be a contributing member of this team, acknowledging that can help make the move feel worth it.
  • No time for checking in or biweekly BBQs? Hire a language coach, as they will have 2 meetings each week for approximately one year. This will give the expat the much-needed support they need to help get used to everyday life, and they’ll also learn key phrases in Japanese language to help them feel comfortable and confident around their neighborhood and with their neighbors.

 

What if Employees Have a Hard Time Working Abroad?

Your employees (expats) could refuse to embrace the new experiences and attempt to do everything the same way they did it back home, instead of stepping far outside of their comfort zone and giving their new lives a chance. Many expats simply exist in an Expat Bubble. Deliberate steps to try is what makes the ultimate difference in their experience. Eventually, the stares become less frequent and obvious, the words cause less pause, and things get easier. So to answer, yes they can feel at home, but home isn’t Japan or wherever they choose – home is the experience, the friends, the memories and culture gained. So, allow them time and space to harvest those experiences and feelings and being truly at home won’t ever be a question. nn nnHave questions about moving employees to Japan and increasing your retention rate? Email micah@fluencycorp.com.